Where you're heading

As the old year makes way for the new, I find myself reflecting on 2019 and gearing up for 2020.

I started this year with such motivation and a clear set of goals and looking back I’m surprised to see the highlights and achievements of 2019 were not on my radar and I’ve had a couple of ah-ha moments:

  1. The things you plan for may not be the things that matter
  2. The highlights were not things ticked off as completed, but rather the personal connections made

I’m chuffed with the lessons 2019 gave me and I’ve ‘resolved’ to make my New Year’s resolutions less about a wish list of better behaviours and more about building on these ah-ha moments. I’ve borrowed from some great thinkers to set up my resolutions for 2020.

CULTIVATE MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS

The poet Adrienne Rich wrote it’s important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.

RESIST ABSENTMINDED ‘BUSYNESS’

Many wise people including Benjamin Franklin and British philosopher Bertrand Russell have said there is a big difference between being busy and being productive. There is value in spending quality time doing nothing.

MASTER THE ART OF LOVING

Philosopher Erich Fromm said "there is hardly any activity, which starts with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love”.

He goes on to describe love as an art form, just as living is an art. So, I am going to give it a go. If you have a resolution to share, I’d love to hear it. “If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading,” as Lao Tzu said.

Published in Issue 21 / Tropic Magazine